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Friday, February 19, 2010

Strength

I think I'm a strong person, I've been through quite a bit in my life and have been able to learn and grow from tough times and difficult relationships. However, today I heard some news that has brought me to my knees.

On February 12th, my husband was diagnosed with CLL (
Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia).
I went online, researched it, and things sounded hopeful. There were drugs and treatments available and people live long lives with CLL. Sure, having any type of cancer isn't the greatest news in the world... but at least we believed it was a type that we could do something about.

His second appointment with the oncologist was today, February 19th. The results from the most recent blood tests weren't good. Not at all. More than 80% of his white blood cells are abnormal. We were told that my husband will have to have a bone marrow transplant within the next five to ten years, depending on how quickly the cancer progresses.

How does one deal with this kind of news? I can't tell you what's going on in my husband's head, only what I've been feeling. SCARED. HELPLESS. I was literally shaking non-stop for hours. I wanted to scream about it, tell everyone... but, at the same time, I didn't know what to say. The panic button in my heart had gone off and I was at a loss.

Now, after talking with a few close friends, crying a bit and relieving some of the pressure, I've learned to form complete sentences again.

I know that my husband and I can't face this alone... and it's not because we are weak. It's because people need each other. We need hands to hold, moments to share, pillars to lean on when we're mentally, emotionally, or physically exhausted. We need laughter to make the load seem lighter and love to bring us hope. We don't need sympathy... we need support. And... we are ever so grateful for that support.

Words cannot define how grateful we are for those who are rooting for us, sending their love, prayers, healing energy, and just showing up for us. It's comforting to know we won't be walking this road alone.

To my beautiful and loving friends who read this... I love and appreciate your presence in my life and I want you to not only know this... I want you to feel it. Thank you... with all of my heart.♥

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Patience

Sometimes, if you're patient,
if you stay up way too late
listening to love songs
with a deep and beautiful ache inside,
if you get kicked when you're down
but have no one to call and nothing to say,
if you bite your tongue and taste the pain,
if you spill coffee on a favorite book,
lose your favorite ring,
have your home invaded,
get lost on an unfamiliar road,
worry over a sick child,
feel an increasing distance in your relationship,
see angels as they're walking away...
Sometimes, if you're very, very patient,
the tears will come.

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Proper Word Use

I am not a tyrant when it comes to proper grammar (outside of my home) but there are definitely many instances of improper word use that cause me to bite my tongue. I openly admit that I, too, have been guilty of a few grammatical errors. I still, to this very day, confuse "effect" and "affect". I'm working on it.

I would like to share some of the most common errors, a few of which drive me completely insane.




Seen -vs- Saw

Any time I hear someone say, "I seen that movie," I cringe. It's actually painful to hear.

You either "have seen" that movie or you "saw" it.



Then -vs- Than

THEN is in relation to a time period. "We saw a movie then we went for ice cream."

THAN is in comparison. "His shoes are larger than mine."



Your -vs- You're

YOUR is possessive. "I like your shirt."

YOU'RE means "you are". "You're very smart."



There -vs- Their

THERE is a place or a pronoun.

"We can stop by there before returning home."

   or

"There is still a sense of longing."


THEIR is a plural possessive pronoun.

"Their dog bit the mailman."



Were -vs- We're


WERE is a past tense verb. "We were at the concert."

WE'RE means "we are." "We're busy painting the house."



Its -vs- It's

ITS shows possession. "The dog chased its tail."

IT'S means IT HAS or IT IS. "It's going to be a beautiful day!"



Past -vs- Passed

This one is tricky. I think most people confuse these every so often because they sound the same and have similar meanings.

PAST is in relation to time or space. "I have no hard feelings over events in the past."

  or

"This past weekend, we visited my aunt."


PASSED is the past tense of PASS. "He passed me the ball."



Effect -vs- Affect

Oh, these are the two I dread.

EFFECT is a noun. "The effect his words had on the audience was amazing."

AFFECT is a verb. "Using improper grammar will affect how your readers perceive you."



Loose -vs- Lose

LOOSE is usually the opposite of tight. "His pants are too loose."
However, you can also set something free: "I let the dogs loose."

LOSE is the opposite of win. "Did you lose the game?"
It's also means something lost: "I told her she would lose that ring because it was too loose on her finger."



Me -vs- I

I have been guilty of this mistake myself. I swear it was by no fault of my own. I distinctly remember my English teacher telling the class to use "I" in a sentence any time you are speaking of yourself along with other individuals.

The best way to remember which of these words is correct is to remove everyone else from the sentence and see if it still makes sense.

For instance, "Bob went to the restaurant with Jan, Susan, and I," is incorrect. You wouldn't say, "Bob went to the restaurant with I."
Therefore, the correct wording would be, "Bob went to the restaurant with Jan, Susan, and me."

Another misuse would be, "Bob and me went to the restaurant." You wouldn't say "me went", you would say "I went". "Bob and I went to the restaurant."



i.e. -vs- e.g.

i.e. means in other words.
"Those paper plates are really ghetto, i.e., very inexpensive"

e.g., means for example.
"His friend has helped a lot, e.g., loaning him money and helping him move."



All that being said, if you feel inclined to begin a sentence with the words "and' or "but", feel free. I know we were taught not to do so but it reflects our natural speech. And, I also don't have a problem ending a sentence with a preposition for that very same reason.



Please, if you ever see/hear me use improper grammar, tell me. Unless, of course, it's obvious that I'm just playing around. =)